The Finally Healed Podcast with Jessica Lundy
Welcome to The Finally Healed Podcast with Jessica Lundy, a podcast designed to help you prioritize your mental health, embrace self-care, and embark on your healing journey. Hosted by international keynote speaker, life coach, and mental health expert Jessica Lundy, each episode dives deep into topics that matter most to women seeking growth, peace, and fulfillment. Whether you’re navigating personal challenges, career transitions, or simply looking for support, Finally Healed offers relatable stories, expert insights, and actionable steps to help you heal and thrive. Join Jessica and a community of listeners as we heal together, one episode at a time.
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The Finally Healed Podcast with Jessica Lundy
Forgiving The Past To Create The Future | S2 EP 3
Welcome to Season 2, Episode 3 of The Finally Healed Podcast with Jessica Lundy! This episode dives deep into a topic that touches every healing journey — forgiveness.
Join Jessica Lundy as she shares personal stories, including early experiences of forgiving her father's absence and healing through challenging moments. Discover the layers of forgiveness, why it's not the easy choice but always the right one, and how letting go can release you from emotional weights holding you back.
In this transformative conversation, you'll learn the three key steps to forgiveness: honesty, letting go, and reflecting on the lessons. Whether it's forgiving yourself, others, or even God, Jessica Lundy encourages all listeners to choose healing on purpose because you deserve freedom.
If you’ve ever struggled with unforgiveness, trauma, or church hurt, this episode will inspire you to reflect and take steps toward finally being healed.
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It is impossible to talk about healing without talking about forgiveness. When we don't allow ourselves to actually forgive ourselves, to forgive others, to forgive God. And forgiveness isn't the easy choice. It's the hard choice. I didn't choose to forgive them because they deserved it. I chose to do it because I deserve to be free and I deserve to be released. So, y'all, this episode is about to get so deep. So I hope that you are ready. It is impossible to talk about healing without talking about forgiveness. I think that there are so many different layers to forgiveness. And I think when we don't allow ourselves to actually forgive ourselves, to forgive others, to forgive God, it just causes so many different challenges in our mind. I believe it allows us to cause different pain and ailment in our body. And so today, my prayer for you, my desire for you is for you to truly forgive, release, and finally be healed. But when I think about healing and forgiving, it all starts with a choice. And forgiveness isn't the easy choice, it is the hard choice, but it's always the choice that's worth it. And as I was preparing for this episode, I started thinking about all of the different times in my life where I was required to forgive. And when I when I started working on it, I thought my earliest memory of forgiveness was in my 20s. I I think 20s was my year of my decade of forgiveness, but really it started as a child. I grew up with a single mother, and my mom gave me absolutely everything. Um, and my father wasn't around. And he wasn't around for a variety of reasons. They say Papa was a Rolling Stone. Um, that was accurate. My dad was a musician. He played all over the entire world. But I think at a very young age, I forgave his absence. And when he died when I was 10 years old, I think at his funeral, and thankfully it wasn't sad, it wasn't boring because he was like a rock star. It was actually like a party. Um, there was musicians that came from all across the world to perform. It was outside, it was in a beautiful venue. I always say, whenever I pass, I kind of want that's what I want as well. So it'd be really a celebration of life. But I think as people were saying all these beautiful things about him, I was able to forgive him for not being there. And ultimately it healed a part of me at a very young age. Sometimes we forget how mature children can really be. And I think that's why it's important to have really good conversations with your children because a lot of them are more mature than you think. And so I think because I made that decision, whether conscious or subconscious, it allowed me to heal throughout a lot of trauma that I experienced in my life. You know, one of the stories that I talk about as a speaker is choosing to go on an opportunity to meet Oprah and be on her iconic show and like all of this. But the deeper story behind that is I was dealing with depression and anxiety and suicidal thoughts. And honestly, it was just like too traumatic for me to be able to go on a senior trip. And I remember when my mom kind of made that executive decision when all of my friends were going on this really cool opportunity. Like I had to forgive the fact that she chose for me to do this educational thing. And it ended up being one of the best decisions of my life. It ended up being this opportunity where I get to show this iconic photo of me and Oprah, but forgiveness was required. And I feel like there's a woman on here watching this that is now kind of going back in time and remembering these experiences that are going to require you to forgive. And I want you to remind yourself that forgiveness is for you, but it's also for the other person. See, I've dealt with so much trauma from a variety of situations in my life, but I have ultimately always chosen to forgive. Now, I didn't forgive people that did things to me that I wish never happened. I didn't choose to forgive them because they deserved it. I chose to do it because I deserve to be free and I deserve to be released. And so I think as you're deciding to forgive, to be the person that you were destined to be, the person that you were designed to be, you have to realize that not forgiving is a weight. And it's a weight that is so hard to carry. You know, I remember having a conversation with a gentleman once, and he was saying, we were talking about religion, and he was like, man, like I can't believe like God just forgives your sins. And I said, Why not? Could you not imagine being loved that much? And so when I think about forgiveness, I see it as loving yourself enough to let go, loving yourself enough to release, loving yourself enough to create um space to do that because you have to allow yourself to go back into the emotion and sit with it. And it might be hard and it might be heavy, but when I tell you it is worth it, and it's one of the best things that you can do for your successes, one of the best things you can do for your destiny. You know, I remember before my husband and I ended up having our daughter, conceiving our daughter. There was some stuff that we both had to forgive. There was some stuff we had to release. You know, it can be really easy when you become a parent to think you can just have this whole new life. But a lot of times, really before parenting, you need to forgive your parents because we can be hard on our parents, but honestly, they're doing the best that they can with the knowledge they have. And that's why grandparents are usually superheroes because they don't have to um be as hands-on on a day-to-day basis. So um I think healing is something that you deserve and it's it's gonna be a process. So let's talk about like what does that look like? I think there's really three steps to healing. So when we talk about the three steps to forgiveness, I think the first step is honesty. And I think it's honesty because you have to be honest with yourself on how you actually feel. A lot of things that require forgiveness can be birthed out of trauma, they can be birthed out of pain, they can be birthed out of discomfort and toxicity. And so it can be suppressed down. And so to truly be honest with yourself that you even need to heal. I don't know about you, but there's been certain times where I've been in church and our pastor says, you know, there might be someone in here dealing with unforgiveness, and you're like, that's not me. And then they pray that prayer, and they're like, they they they encourage you to ask God who you should forgive. And then for a moment, you get a glimpse of that face or that name that you haven't forgotten yet. You haven't forgiven yet, and you're like, oh my God, I'm still dealing with this. And so I think forgiveness is almost like an onion, you know, it's layered. We're continuing to peel back, right? The layers of unforgiveness. Cause you can think you forgave somebody on a surface level, but oh, when somebody says their name or somebody brings up that situation and it still stings, that reveals that we haven't truly healed from the trauma in which we have experienced. Then we have to let go. There's a release that is required to properly forgive. Not only is it a choice and we have to be honest, but we have to let it go. It can be easy. Sometimes people say, you know, I forgive you, but I don't forget. Well, wait a minute now. Wait a minute now. Like that's that's not truly letting go. That's letting go with condition, meaning if situations and circumstances happen, I can bring this in again. Like, like that's not, that's not fair. Okay. And then we can reflect on what we learned. I think from a place of maturity, we're able to sit with things long enough to figure out what we could have learned, whether that is a red flag and it's like, okay, I'm never gonna expose myself to this again. Or, but I think there's always a deeper lesson in forgiveness. And when we take it serious, we're able to prevent future hurt in the past. We're able to unlock a deeper side of ourselves. And so when I think about this in terms of our healing moment, you know, my favorite segment in the podcast where we do a little bit of homework, you know, I want you to really reflect on your relationships and I want you to be honest with yourself in the places and spaces you still need to heal. Meaning, you might need to forgive yourself. You might be holding something up against God, you might be experiencing some church hurt. I know for a long time for me, I had to heal from church hurt. I was diagnosed with depression at a very young age, and I remember someone saying something to me that um I needed more faith, and they weren't sensitive to what I was dealing with. And so it distanced me. You know, it's interesting how distance can happen when unforgiveness is so big, it fills a gap. And so I want you to be honest with yourself on where do you need to forgive? How has unforgiveness shown up in your life? And I want you to choose to heal on purpose because you deserve it. You deserve to finally be healed. You deserve to live the life of your dreams, and you don't know what is on the other side of actually releasing. I think there's some stuff that God wants to bring in your life, whether it's some relationships, some businesses, some opportunities, but unforgiveness is too big that he can't introduce anything else there. So I encourage you to heal and I encourage you to release. I know this episode was a little bit deeper, but I hope that it blesses you and encourages you to release and forgive. If you enjoyed this episode of the podcast, please leave us a review. It helps us so much. Subscribe to the podcast on all platforms. Share this with a friend. This is like that gentle reminder to a friend that you know needs to work on forgiveness. Uh, follow us on all social media platforms at finally healed pod and at Jessica Lundy TV. Remember, you've got this, and you deserve to heal.