The Finally Healed Podcast with Jessica Lundy

Borrowed Belief: The Key to Thriving When You Lack Motivation | Ep 7

• Jessica Lundy • Season 1 • Episode 7

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Imagine harnessing the power of belief borrowed from those around you to overcome life's toughest challenges. That's exactly what we explore in this episode, as I, Jessica Lundy, take you through the transformative journey of a concept I've coined, "borrowed belief." Drawing insights from my TEDx talk and personal life experiences, including a profound crisis involving my daughter, I reveal how a supportive community can be a catalyst for success. We'll delve into the significance of nurturing friendships that foster positive belief systems and how creating safe spaces for women can empower them to thrive through collaboration, not competition.

Special Segment: The Healing Moment Don't miss the "Healing Moment," where Jessica guides you through an actionable exercise to release your fears and limiting beliefs, setting you free to embrace your true, authentic self.

📌 Action Items:

  • Write down your fears and limiting beliefs
  • Release them by ripping or burning the paper (safely!)
  • Step confidently into your greatness

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Jessica Lundy:

A lot of people don't achieve the level of success that they desire. It always goes back to belief. We have to borrow belief. Support is vital. It's not a weakness to borrow belief from somebody. It's actually strength. When you have access to people that are successful, that are thriving, that are living in their purpose, you're able to see they can do what I can do. But if you look at your circle and there's nobody around you that is challenging you to be great, it's time to move. I don't want you to no longer have doubt or unbelief. I really want you to embrace that anything is possible.

Jessica Lundy:

Welcome to Finally Healed with Jessica Lundy podcast, where we prioritize mental health, self-care and embracing our healing journey together. I'm super excited about this episode. We are going to be introducing a phrase that I have coined, called borrowed belief. Recently, I had the amazing opportunity to do my first TEDx. If you have not checked it out, we will leave a link to it in the show notes, but it was called three things that hinder your self-belief. And, as I was doing so much research on belief and why we struggle with it, because I truly believe that that is the reason a lot of people don't achieve the level of success that they desire, it always goes back to belief. So you can be an extremely hard worker, you can come from, you know all of the opportunities in the world, but if you don't believe in yourself at such a high degree, there will be a cap to what you can achieve in life. And after doing so much research like literally on government sites, like going through all these documents I was in prayer because I believe, as a believer, that I asked God for some kingdom wisdom. I was doing all this research and then it just hit me like really we have to borrow belief, meaning when we're in situations and we don't have the amount of belief in ourselves that we need. We need to borrow that belief. We can borrow that belief from our friends. We can borrow that belief from our family. We can borrow that belief from our faith. That's why I believe everybody should believe in something at the end of the day. And so when I think about the success that I've had in my life, some of the challenges and things that I've been able to overcome, it was because I was able to borrow belief from people around me. This is why it is vital about the people that you surround yourself around. If everybody you hang around is negative, is always saying something that is not uplifting, it's going to be really hard to be the person that you are destined to be. So this time, to kind of look back at those friends and figure out are they really an asset or a liability into your life? And if you have some people, if you're a part of a community or you desire to be a part of community, I think that is so important.

Jessica Lundy:

When my daughter was literally fighting for her life, she had did the code blue like they do code blue like in the movie. That's a real thing. They really do yell out code blue when someone is declining, and that happened to her twice. And so I was at a pivotal point where I was like this feels like too much for me. And when I just sent out a little message in a group chat to some friends and some family and was like, can you pray for me? Now, I don't want you to be the type of person that's like asking for prayer every day, meaning you can't pray for yourself. But there are situations that are so overwhelming that you really do need a community. You need somebody else that can help support you. And when I tell y'all. In that hospital waiting room, I could feel the support of the people that I surround myself around and I was so grateful for that moment in time. I was able to borrow some belief from them that everything was going to work out.

Jessica Lundy:

If you are having a challenging time in your marriage and your relationship and you're like, how am I going to get through this? This is when you need to be able to reach out to your girls in the group chat and say, hey, can y'all hold me down? But if you don't have anybody that you can reach out to when you're in the midst of crisis, then you got to reevaluate your friendships. One of the most amazing things about being an adult is we got options out here. We don't have to just have friends based upon who goes to our school or based upon the church we go to. We can be friends with anybody, and so I want to encourage you and really this is the reason that I am starting my own community because there has to be safe spaces for women to go so that they can receive the healing that they deserve. They can talk about their goals in a place where you're not feeling like someone's trying to outdo you, because it really is collaboration over competition over here. So support is vital.

Jessica Lundy:

There are times when my coaching clients tell me like I'll tell them where I see their business going and they'll be like coach. I don't see that and I'm like borrow some belief from me because I got enough for all of us. So you really got to look at the influences and really the voices in your ear. Are they telling you that you can win, that you have got this, that greatness is upon you? Are they saying, man, that's a little bit too much of a stretch for you, or you should probably be a little bit more realistic about your goals? You don't need to be with people like that. It's also okay to release people. When you start to look at your belief system and the people that I've been pouring into you. If it is not positive, let them go, because we don't have to be friends with people for a lifetime.

Jessica Lundy:

I realized that I can be grateful for the time that I am able to be in someone's life, but when you are in these situations and you need to borrow belief, no, it's okay, it's not a weakness to borrow beliefs from somebody. It's actually strength. We actually need to spend more time looking at the things that we are deficient in, things that we might not be our strongest at, and really take an inventory of the things that we need to improve on. I want you to start embracing situations where you can experience rejection. I know sometimes I talk about rejection. That's something that people want to stay away from but I believe that you are strong, that you are resilient, that you are a warrior and you can accomplish anything that comes in your way, and so, when you don't worry any longer about things not working out for you, I want you to have that mind shift that everything is working out for my good, that everything that I desire is desiring me as well, and to encourage that, that level of belief you have to have in yourself. To accomplish anything, you have to start goal setting at a higher frequency Meaning.

Jessica Lundy:

A lot of times, people just write down their goals at the top of the year and they're just like super excited, and then three weeks later they have completely forgot about it. We're doing next level goals around here. What I am going to be creating is something so special so that women not only feel seen, but actually have an action plan. See, we don't have any problems. We're starters, we don't have no problem starting, but I want this next year to be one of the best years of your life. I want you to borrow some belief from me. If you need it. You can have as much belief as you need, but I need you to start being an action taker and not a procrastinator.

Jessica Lundy:

And so you might've been thinking like why haven't certain things worked for me? Why is it that I'm constantly trying stuff and it hasn't really popped off? Because you're trying to do it in your own might and strength. See, my business really took off when I stopped being a lone wolf, when I stopped being someone that was saying I can do it all, and I started to transition into my delegation season. I believe you're going into a delegation season, meaning you're able to delegate tasks. You don't have to be the talent and the photographer, the videographer, you edit it in the video and you're doing the website and all of that. No, no, no, no, no. That's part of hustle culture, which we do not subscribe to around here. We are team soft life, but you have to figure out what a soft life looks like for you.

Jessica Lundy:

This is why access is so important the people that you look up to and admire. I am a huge fan into buying access, meaning I might not be friends with somebody, but if I know that they have knowledge and wisdom that I desire to learn, I'm going to do what is necessary to get in their community, to get in their coaching programs so that I can borrow some belief from them. Because when you have access to people that are successful, that are thriving, that are traveling the world, that are living in their purpose, you're able to see if they can do it. I can do it, and I don't know about you. When I'm around some of the most exceptional people, it allows me to puff my chest up a little bit more, right. It allows me to put my head up a little bit higher, because I know that my breakthrough is just around the corner, that the greatness that I desire to have in my life is within reach. But if you look at your circle and there's nobody around you that is challenging you to be great, it's time to move.

Jessica Lundy:

I am so grateful that I've been on this world tour with Jeremy Anderson and ET and CJ and Chris and Deani and Nick. We got an amazing team that I'm so grateful to travel the world with. But y'all, I'm in London, getting picked up by a Rolls Royce and I'm like, is this the life I live now? Like how phenomenal is that. But because I'm around people that are extremely successful, that are playing at the highest level, I know that anything is possible to me. So I want you to feel prompted to strive for greatness and if you're like Jess, I need to know more about this. We're going to be putting people on a wait list. We're going to be releasing something really exciting very soon, but I don't want you to no longer have fear. I don't want you to no longer have doubt or unbelief. I really want you to embrace that anything is possible. I really want you to embrace that you were created for such a time as this and that you can not only just borrow belief, but that you can get to a point where you are so full that you are truly living from a place of overflow that you can actually start to allow other people to borrow some belief from you.

Jessica Lundy:

So now we're at my favorite part of the show the healing moment. This is where we have an action item so that you can do the work to truly heal, and for you. I need you to figure out what is causing you to not truly live the life you deserve. If there is a fear, if there is a limiting belief that you have, I want you to actually physically write it out. I don't want you to put it in the note section that you have. I want you to actually physically write it out. I don't want you to put it in the notes section of your phone. I want you to get a pen and paper old school write out that fear, write out that limiting belief. And you have two options you can rip that thing up or crumble it up, release it and do not allow yourself to let it hold you bound.

Jessica Lundy:

And then, from there on, I want you to walk full force into your greatness, full force into everything that you are destined to be, because typically it is only one to maybe two things that's really holding us back from being our true, authentic self, from aligning perfectly with our purpose, and I want to see this. Listen, I want you to record this. So this is a memory that you have. I remember there was an exercise I did a couple years ago where I put all of my limiting belief down and I set that thing on fire. Okay, I did it in a safe way, okay, but I set it on fire in my fire pit and I let it go Because, if you can be honest, there might be some things from your past, there might be some people that said something to you when you were five years old or 10 years old and it broke your heart and it stopped you from believing in yourself. I want to encourage you, as your big sis, that we're not gonna let that hold us back any longer. So this has been another episode of the finally healed with Jessica Lundy.

Jessica Lundy:

If you are excited about this episode, I need you to like it, I need you to comment, I need you to leave a review. Share this with a friend. I always say one of the best things that we can do is not be selfish with good information. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a woman in your life that you know needs some encouragement, needs some support, needs a release to truly be launched into the person that they were destined to be. Remember, you've got this.

Jessica Lundy:

So women always ask me how do I do it all? Being a wife for 10 years, a mother for 10 years, a mother, a international keynote speaker, a keynote writing coach. I am so blessed to occupy so many spaces and I am ready to give you all of the goods. I've never done a workshop quite like this before, but I am ready. Like this before, but I am ready.

Jessica Lundy:

It is time for us to get in our PJs and have a new year, new me bump that. New opportunities, new mindset, new habits, new money. Okay, going into the new year, we are going to have a packed two-hour workshop where we're going to be releasing some stuff from the past we're going to be planning from the new year. This is an event that you cannot afford to miss. I know that you are tired of playing small. You know that greatness is inside of you and I want to pull it out of you so that you can truly launch into the best version of yourself. So, to learn more, click the link below. You got this and I can't wait to party with you virtually.